I briefly dated a guy. Let’s call him Matt. We saw each other for about 3 months. In that time we went on about 12 dates and had “sex” maybe 3 times. I use the word “sex” loosely because as it turned out, Matt was impotent and incapable of penetration.
Matt was awesome, however, and I adored him. We were great friends. And so even though my feelings weren’t all the way romantic towards him, I opted to get physical.
Fast forward a few months and I have finally called it quits with Matt. Mostly because he kept telling me how he wasn’t in love with me. He did it enough times and I finally got a clue…
….we were better off as friends.
We kept in touch as friends for the next three months until Matt got a girlfriend. And then I discovered how dispensable my friendship was.
“I must be brutally honest here and let you know we can’t have lunches any longer. With our history, my lady is just not comfortable with it. I don’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings, especially yours, but in this case I want to respect her wishes. I love her and want her to be completely comfortable. So in that light, I want to wish you all the happiness in the world, both personally and professionally. Take care Michelle.”
Now the first thing you have to understand is that this message hurt me deeply. The second thing you have to understand is that it pissed me off.
Why do men cater to insecure women who feel that any female is a threat to their relationship? I don’t understand this. But I have a feeling men like jealousy in a woman. Why else would Matt agree to dump a pretty great friendship? Why wouldn’t he suggest we at least meet each other and see if his lady could be more comfortable with me?
Love makes men insane and it turns women into raging bitches sometimes.
Is this a portent of things to come? Will she start controlling his friendships with men too? His social life? YOU EFFING BET SHE WILL.
Why stop at a slice when you can OWN THE WHOLE PIE?
So can men and women be friends? You better bet your ass they can. But not if there’s an insecure woman involved. Then that bitch is devious.
And Matt…. Well I have parting words for him…