How to tell if you’re a booty call

michelleI know you like him. He’s a great guy. But he might be using you for sex if the following are true. Here’s how to tell if you’re a booty call.

  1. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends.
  2. He acts like you’re just a friend when you’re in a crowd.
  3. He’s only affectionate with you in private.
  4. He shows up at your place after midnight looking for sex.
  5. He never takes you out.
  6. Your dates consist of making reservations at bath houses and hotels.
  7. You aren’t included in group activities.
  8. He texts at irregular times.
  9. He doesn’t text you to see how you’re doing or create general conversation with you.
  10. He tells you he DOESN’T want a relationship but he DOES want to fuck you.

Tough one. Do some of those hit a little too close to home? I know they hit home for me. Literally every one applies to my current situation.

Don’t be embarrassed if you’ve been generous and loving to your booty call.  It’s a testament to what a big heart you have.  Sure, maybe you went overboard with the gifts.  And maybe you put up with some stuff that you should’ve said something about.  But that’s all water under the bridge.  In the end, you were a good person and that’s all that matters.  You can be proud of yourself.

It honestly just dawned on me that I’ve been a booty call suffering under the mistaken belief that I meant something to my booty call.  Not so.  According to the booty call guidelines set forth by Your Tango, I am DEEP IN BOOTY CALL TERRITORY.  How did I get so far from where I wanted to be?  I have no idea, but I’ve always had a lousy sense of direction when it comes to men. And an overly generous heart.

So here’s to making ourselves LESS available for booty calls and MORE available to the people who love and care for us.

5 thoughts on “How to tell if you’re a booty call

  1. *hug* I am sorry if this realization was painful. I hope moving on opens you up to new, wonderful possibilities. You deserve your happily ever after. It’s a challenge when you meet so many people who have different relationship styles from what you desire. It may make things doomed from day 1.

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