I love a man who holds a woman’s hand in public. The other day I saw an older couple holding hands in the park and it made me pause in my mental stream just to admire their affection for each other.
Or even an arm around her shoulders is nice. Plenty of love flowing when he’s got an arm draped over her and is pulling her in close.
I suppose you could say I like PDAs, or rather I’m a fan of the emotion that leads to the spontaneity of a PDA. When someone succumbs to a feeling of love or lust or both and reaches out to touch their partner in a special way – hand holding, arm around the shoulders, kiss, hug, etc. – I just get a little weak in the knees.
But my favorite sign of affection is the “just because” gift. The surprise takeout meal he brought home because he knew you’d be tired and not want to cook. The card he left for you on your windshield. Just because.
I once had a boyfriend come over my house and wash my car for me. Just because it needed it. SUPER great surprise, btw. As I recall I thanked him most thoroughly.
I had a boyfriend once copy the entire e.e. cummings poem ‘i carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart)’ poem into an ENORMOUS card he crafted for me out of posterboard. I cherish that card as much as I cherish the notes and papers my boys have given me over the years.
I think romance however, isn’t about getting the big things right. It’s about not missing the little opportunities to show that you care.
So throw out your old bills. Save your old love letters. Hold someone’s hand. Make someone know how special they are to you.