I’m signed up for Google Alerts.
And the only reason this has any relevance whatsoever is that one of the topics I have flagged for notifications is “friends with benefits.”
Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of alerts letting me know that people are out there looking for hook ups on Craigslist and more often than not, they state they’re looking for “a continuous FWB.”
NSA is dropping off the charts.
Is it no longer fashionable to admit to wanting No Strings Attached?
Is there something favorable in looking for a Friend with Benefits situation?
Well, let’s examine.
A FWB is someone you hook up with repeatedly, over a period of time. But there’s also some element of socialization involved – beers, cocktails, meals, etc.
I think a NSA lacks that element of social activity. I think a NSA is just a hook up. Maybe it only occurs once. Maybe it happens multiple times whenever the partners need to scratch that itch. But the point is that is all that happens. Itch scratching.
I personally get a feeling of dismay when I see someone looking for a NSA.
- Why just a NSA?
- Is something wrong with me?
- Do you not like me enough to hang with me for drinks?
- I’m good enough to fuck but not good enough to have a conversation with?
Whereas when I hear about FWBs I think, “Oh how nice! A mutually beneficial relationship revolving around sex.”
Call me old fashioned but I like my sex to come with a little friendly repartee.
Also. . . I don’t believe that sex ever comes with no strings attached so there’s that.
Ultimately, I do have to say I appreciate the honesty of folks advertising for NSAs. I’m 100% positive they mean exactly as they say while I’m not so certain that some of those FWB folks don’t fall into the NSA category as well but don’t want to admit it.
Perhaps I over simplify.
I can’t be the only one who would prefer to be called a friend rather than a one night stand.
But that’s just me.