Good on paper, bad IRL

I’m constantly torn when I’m internet dating.

If I went out with every guy who showed interest in me, I’d be going out on two dates a night.

Instead, I go out with just the guys I’m attracted to.

That’s a MUCH smaller pool.

I’m just going to go ahead and admit that I almost exclusively use photos to select my dates.

I look for genuine smiles and broad shoulders.

Lately however, I’ve spent more time READING profiles.

And I’m torn.

Is it better to go out with someone you find unattractive whose profile speaks to you? Or is it better to go out with someone you’re simply attracted to, regardless of their profile?

So far, I haven’t had any luck going out with men I’m not attracted to and HOPING that an attraction develops.

Although I can talk myself into kissing just about anyone ONCE, it never pans out for me.

I always wind up caught up in an awkward embrace, trying to keep my lips from being hoovered off while he grabs at my ass like a baboon scratching its butt.

Occasionally I’m pleasantly surprised.

Like with Tony from Sweden who basically kissed me and made my toes curl.

We’re friends on Facebook.


So I’m just curious, is it worth going out with men who look good on paper but maybe there’s less attraction IRL or should I keep plugging away at the men I find attractive?



8 thoughts on “Good on paper, bad IRL

  1. Several of my best male friends are not anywhere close to abercrombie models. Or even close. I am not either, so it all works out. Their minds, however, are pretty damn incredible. Kisses? Those are a bit like chocolates. Some are really very good. Others, the taste is more than enough and you don’t go back for more.

  2. I believe chemistry happens when you least expect it. Pictures and words can both be misleading. It’s the face-to-face connection that lets you know if you’re on to something. My advice is to cast the net as widely as possible and see what gets dragged in. You might be surprised. 🙂

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