So my cousin Jennifer tagged me in a Facebook post “If you want to fall in love with anyone, apparently all you have to do is ask them these questions.”
I bought a Love Spell for $1 from the Renaissance Faire and I’m still single.
But okay, what gives?
I clicked the link.
I found that the questions were grouped into three categories – each with increasing intimacy.
Set 1 had questions like:
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Set 2 had questions like:
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
And Set 3 had questions like:
- Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
- Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
- Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
Those questions really pull from the gut and I’m afraid I’d be emotionally exhausted after sharing them.
But I get what they are intending to do: create intimacy.
Remove the veils of pretense and get to the heart of who each of us is.
Because deep down, under all the layers we carry to protect ourselves, all we really want is to be seen and to be loved for who we really are.
I’m not saying this approach will work but it’ll certainly weed out the men who aren’t looking for a relationship.
The author caps off this Q and A session with eye gazing for 2 to 4 minutes.
Have you ever eye gazed?
It’s not easy to do. In the beginning it’s awkward. You may laugh a bit. Roll your eyes. But then you start to FEEL something. A connection. You start to SEE someone as a vulnerable human being. You soften. They react.
It’s actually quite beautiful.
So maybe these questions will be as effective as my Love Spell, but I’m willing to give anything a try. . .