Dear Future Boyfriend

Dear Future Boyfriend,

You’re late.

Normally, this wouldn’t bug me but you’re REALLY late.

Therefore I have a few things to tell you.

I’ve been busy.

Somewhere between my divorce at 30 and turning 45, I managed to cram a lot of living into my life.

I waited for you but since you didn’t show, I did it myself.

  • Running with the bulls.
  • Racing stock cars.
  • Orgasmic meditation.
  • Catered camping trips.
  • Burning Man.
  • Skydiving.

And so much more.

Along the way, I got an education about life, love, men and strangely enough BDSM activities.

More on that later.

I think giving me extra time has helped to improve my communication skills, my ability to connect intimately with someone else, and has overall made me a more suitable partner for someone special.

Here’s a few of the things I have learned.

  • Your friends are your lifeline.

It’s the person you can call at 2 am when you find out your mom is in heart failure who you can measure the quality of your life with.

  • Family is everything.

They’re always there, supporting you, pushing you on, cheering for you.

  • Boyfriends aren’t all that.

It’s true.  I want to love and be loved in return but I’m not dying without a relationship.  Matter of fact, being single has made me a more interesting person, I think.  Look at everything I’ve done to distract myself.

  • Personal growth is hard. And uncomfortable.

I’ve tested my edges.  Dated men who were totally inappropriate for me.  Explored activities (such as BDSM) which would make a grown man blush.  I can honestly say that although it’s difficult, spending time outside one’s comfort zone is where personal development really happens.

  • I know myself.

I know myself and I hope to continue to get to know myself alongside you.  I don’t believe in personal stagnation so if we push each other to do more, experience more, have more, then that’s a good thing in my book.

There’s not much more to say except that the instant I fell in love with you, I overlooked your tardiness.

Because the important thing is not WHEN we met, but THAT we met.

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