That’s just how I roll

Several months ago, I went on a date.

I had no idea at the time that what transpired on that date would make me swear off internet dating.

But it did.

You see, I kinda liked the guy.

He was respectful, thoughtful, and nice.

A real gentleman.

Per typical first date guidelines, we chatted about careers, family, hobbies, etc.

The usual.

And it went nicely.

I mean there were no fireworks, but I was so impressed that he wasn’t staring at my tits or trying to talk me into going back to his place that I didn’t care.

I was happy just being treated like a human being.

Granted, he was a former Mormon, with a big Mormon family and all the issues that go along with that.

But overall, he was a step up from what I’d been experiencing.

But then he said it.

“I think I can speak for both of us when I say there’s no chemistry.”

Wha?!

No chemistry?

First of all, please do not presume that after spending two hours with me that you can speak for me.

Second of all, how the hell would you know about our chemistry?

You haven’t even touched me.

It’s ironic, isn’t it?

A decent date caused me to swear off online dating.

But it’s true.

I drew a line in the sand and I haven’t crossed it since.

I may be a little on the “friendly” side, but I don’t make assumptions about chemistry until I’ve kissed someone.

That’s just how I roll.

7 thoughts on “That’s just how I roll

  1. I dated a woman for nearly four years. She left in January and my world was rocked, in a bad way. I’ve been through the rollercoaster for the last 58 days. Yesterday, I decided to try Match, just to see what was out there. I liked. I messaged. I watched the notifications come and go that someone had viewed my profile, but no one was responding. Apparently no one even liked me. Then I started reading the profiles. So many people saying, “Do more than just say ‘hi’ or ‘what’s up?'” But yeah, no response, when I would try to start a conversation. One woman was so vapid, talking about how “Dad bods are not sexy!” So, after less than 24 hours, I knew this wasn’t the place for me. Sorta like walking into a bar and everyone swivels on their seats and you just know you need to leave. So, at least I got my $70 back. And I get to keep my dignity.

    • Good for you. . .figuring it out so quickly. I spent years struggling with online dating. Let’s just say I’ve been on a lot of first dates. Ha ha!

      • I have a sorta date tomorrow. Coffee/lunch. I know I’m still raw and not all that interested, especially not in a relationship, but I do want to be social. I know I could use more friends!

  2. I’m a bit startled by that dingbat’s comment. No chemistry? ugh—– You, my friend, are full of life and joy and chemistry. His must have been off.

  3. I’ve just complete another round of attempting to do the online dating thing…same result as all the previous times – no luck. At least we can say we put ourselves out there….my most recent dating experience involved thinking there was chemistry and then as one month rolled into two that completely disappeared, at least for me. I guess the part of your date is when he says he can “speak for the both of us”…Guess that told you everything you needed to know about him right then and there. Thanks for sharing your insights. — David Lee

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