A group of friends and I were discussing our “types.”
As in what type of man do we find ourselves attracted to.
Me, I go for lumberjacks – bearded and outdoorsy.
My friend Allison said her type was Germanic.
And then our friend Adele admitted that the type of man she goes for is the kind who hates her, deep down.
We were floored.
It’s one thing to like beards.
You wind up dating lots of bearded men.
It’s another thing to wind up with men who have an underlying dislike of you.
I could hear the truth in what she was saying though, and it hurt to think of what she had been through in order to actually identify “hates me” as her type.
We asked for clarification.
“Well, they don’t come at me FULL ASSHOLE,” she explained.
At first, they’re nice and caring.
But then something changes and they turn into an asshole with her.
Personally, I can relate to her mindset.
I too have dated men who started out nice and caring but who evolved into critical, misogynistic partners.
Once I met a guy who would bully me when he didn’t get his way.
He swore up and down what a great boyfriend he was and how much he loved women.
But then he texted me nasty messages when I wouldn’t do what he wanted.
He’d go back and forth, being nice to me trying to change my mind, then call me a bitch when I wouldn’t do as he said.
I got away from him as quick as I could.
It’s hard for me to give advice about men, considering that I really believe many of the single men out there are porn addicts who use women and are afraid of connection with other human beings.
But if I were to say one thing, it would be to look for the good men, and when you discover his true colors, and they aren’t as appealing as they were when you met him. . .
R U N !