Sometimes, wisdom falls from the lips of your friends like ripe apples off a tree.
I was at a party this weekend when my friend Anne took the time to voice what she thinks the problem is with me and online dating.
I’m a type.
Specifically, I’m the blonde and big-breasted type which means that instead of interacting with me as a human being, men are making assumptions about my personality and character and reacting to their perception of me.
How true is that?
It may take more or less time, depending on the man, but eventually they all seem to gravitate towards my appearance.
And what can I say, I’ve learned to play up my assets and therefore I am partially responsible for being treated like the cartoon character Jessica Rabbit.
I’ve never heard it put so succinctly.
When you’re perceived as a “type” maybe you have to work extra hard to combat the stereotype that your physical presence resembles.
Do I do that?
Just look at my profile pictures: all busty, filled with glorious blonde hair, and in suggestive poses:
It makes me think that even though I get a lot of right swipes on my profile, I might be better served to tone down my profile and emphasize my less-stereotypical attributes than play them up.
No more low-cut cleavage shots.
No more boudoir pictures.
It would make for a good experiment and I have a photographer friend who may just help me select different photos.
Wish me luck!