Yesterday I wrote a blog post and I titled it “Not Instantly Amazing.”
It was a knee jerk reaction to having yet another first date with a man who I’m sure went right back on Tinder and started swiping left and right as soon as he got home.
I should clarify:
I am an AMAZING person.
I am EXTRAORDINARY, just like everyone else on the planet.
A real one-of-a-kind treasure.
I wish I had the bandwidth to maintain relationships with more people because (as I’m fond of saying about my birthfamily) more people to love and to love you is NEVER a bad thing.
The trick of course, is to manage to put yourself out there.
And in my humble opinion, people are now unwilling to take more time to get to know you because it’s so easy to just get back online and start swiping.
A friend made a comment on my blog post “Not Instantly Amazing”:
You have such presence. I find this hard to believe.
And it’s true.
I do have presence.
But it’s much easier to be myself in a Burning Man crowd than on a first date when I go into information gathering mode: what do you do, how many kids do you have, what are your hobbies, etc.?
First dates are hard.
I should know, I go on SO MANY.
So perhaps I should revise my post title from “Not Instantly Amazing” to “Instantly Amazing, just add alcohol.”
Because a little liquid libation goes a long way to socially lube up a conversation.