The Elephant in the Room

It might be time to discuss the elephant in the room.

Namely, the fact that I’ve been single for nearly a decade with not a boyfriend in sight.

A decade does seem like an unusually long time to find love.

I’m not complaining, mind you, just noticing that it does bother me a little.

Especially when I have friends who seem to leap from relationship to relationship with hardly a break in between.

I wonder, is there something wrong with me?

Am I somehow broken or damaged?

Imperfect in ways that make me unlovable?

Of course, it’s really not about me, is it?

It’s about serendipity.

The irony is that the older I get, the more suitable I become for a relationship yet the farther away it all seems to be.

I’ve never felt more alone, going through another cancer scare by myself with my family and friends for support.

Where’s my significant other?

Late, apparently.

But if the old adage is true, and good things come to those who wait, then every day brings me one step closer to complete happiness.

I’m not saying a romance is the end-all-be-all, just that I’m expecting a landslide of good karma to come round to me again at some point in the near future.

Eventually, the stars and planets will align and I’ll find what I’m missing, no?

And I can’t wait to banish the elephant from the room.

2 thoughts on “The Elephant in the Room

  1. My insight may be way off or closest to what you could use. I used the last three years to find out who I am. Then I started finding people doing what I like to do. To be clear, I started getting back to doing the things I had done before but had left on the side of the path. Find people who have genuine worth in the things they care about and what they feel is important. Those people also know themselves better than most people and are better to be connected to than others that just do stuff for a short term benefit. You are looking for a life partner. Life partners have a really good read on what a good life is. For you to be with them, you have to develop that read also. Good luck. I am always available to talk if you want to explore this more from my perspective. I am really happy in my life and have a very optimistic feeling that I have found “the one.”

  2. I’m looking at the same fate as you, my friend. It’s not such a bad place to be. There are nights the loneliness is heavy and all-consuming. But, I can choose to be lonely, or enjoy my own company. In the meantime, I will fail the Bechdel test many, many times.

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