60 days down, 30 to go.
So you want to know the truth about abstinence?
I thought it would be harder for me, given my proclivities.
I was sure I would suffer miserably.
But the truth is, it hasn’t been that hard.
No pun intended.
You see, I haven’t really been around temptation.
The Swede is in Sweden.
The Photographer cancelled on me twice.
And since no one else has asked me out. . . well, here I am two-thirds of the way through my committed abstinence period and I’m doing A-OK.
Oh sure, I’ve had fantasies about getting it on.
And I’m TOTALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO my abstinence coming to a close.
It’s been an interesting exercise.
But I learned one thing:
When sex is taken out of the equation, it’s easier to figure out who you want to spend your time with and who you don’t.
There are some people I just don’t want to hang out with when sex isn’t an option.
Meaning there’s no substance to the relationship.
Then there’s people I LOVE hanging out with – both men and women.
I’ve learned to cultivate those relationships more and let the other ones fall by the wayside easier.
I have to admit, rather sheepishly, I’ve also been kinda bitchier than usual, especially to men.
It’s not that I’m a ball buster, it’s just that I’m more tolerant of myself when I’m grumpy and less inclined to fake being in a good mood.
For example, I had a friend who cancelled on me due to illness.
When he called to reschedule, I was feeling cranky because I’d been cancelled on SEVERAL TIMES that week.
And so I said NO RESCHEDULE.
Normally, I would have MADE myself reschedule with him.
I can’t tell you how giddy it made me feel to just follow my mood and say no.