Great places for a first date

My first date ever with with Don and he took me to the dance at my high school and sneak attack kissed me on the dance floor to Lady in Red.  Since then, I’ve been on many more dates – some good and some bad.  Here’s a list of some of the better ones:

Cooking Class – Dave took me to a cooking class and together we made lobster bisque with cheesy risotto and lemon asparagus.  It was fun.  We got to talk a lot, we laughed a lot, and in the end we had a great meal to share that we’d prepared together.  I also did this with the Wine Man at his house.  It was fun dipping strawberries in melted chocolate and then eating the rewards after a quick chill in the oven.  I will always love making a meal on a first date.

Restaurant – I know, this one is tried but true.  You get to share and meal and (hopefully) have great conversation.  Edward took me on my best restaurant date ever on account that each time we went out, we had a great meal, great wine, and great company.  Sigh. I miss Edward.

Music Festival – This is a great place to go on a date – there’s food, shopping, and entertainment.  What else do you need?  Everyone should be happy.  Also, you can bring a blanket and snuggle under the sun/stars on your own little patch of grass.  Frank took me to a festival in San Francisco where we got to see Peter Gabriel as the closing act.  I got a contact high just from standing in the audience. Thomas took me to a concert in the Lick Observatory on Mount Hamilton.  Had he not farted the entire time, I might have been a BEST DATE EVER.  Seriously.  I couldn’t make this stuff up.

Bowling – Luke took me bowling.  We had beers and a slice of pizza while engaging in friendly competition. It’s a low-stress date so you can feel relaxed and comfortable, which is important. It was also really fun since I totally suck at bowling we made it into a competition of Funny Bowling.

The Driving Range – Karl took me to the driving range and it was fun because he was great at golfing and I was pure shit.  I got a bunch of tips from him and even some up-close-and-personal time with him as he helped me with my swing.   Bonus!

I have some new date ideas that I’d like to go on that don’t involve embarrassing sporting activities:

  • I’d like to go to a Burmese or an Ethiopian restaurant.  Just to try out a new cuisine.  But this requires and adventurous partner.  Any takers?
  • I’d like to go to a beer making class in SF.  Because I want to know how to make beer and it just seems like something that would be fun with a sexy partner.
  • I’d like to go kayaking on the Elkhorn Slough.  No one has taken me up on this offer.  The guy I asked (the Irishman) admitted he couldn’t swim.  I am a PADI certified Rescue Diver.  But even the thought of me rescuing him couldn’t get him to go on the water.

There are a few places I DON’T want to go on a date:

  • The Gym – Ugh no.  Last thing I want is someone watching me grunt and groan as I work on the machines.  Or have them compare me to all the hard bodies that are there.  Skip.
  • The Beach – You know how you dip your toes in the water and lean back to enjoy the sunlight on your face, only to get hit by a wave and dragged 200 feet, nearly drowned, and when you come up for air your bottoms are riding below your crack because they’re filled with sand.  Yeah, that’s why it’s a bad idea.  Bonfire on the beach at night however is a GREAT idea.  Thank you Kurt for taking me 🙂
  • A Movie – yawn.  I want to talk to my date not sit around in a dark room, totally silent, watching whatever canned formula film is being shown.  Not even an art film or a foreign film can lure me in.  An NC-17 rated movie might do it though…

So there you have it, the best and the worst.


Come for the boobs, stay for the brains


It’s what I tell myself every time I go on a date.

Don’t try to be sexy.

Just be yourself.

But somehow I always find myself making playfully suggestive comments to my dates while smiling innocently at them.

Or giving him a lap dance at the beach.

I’ve come to the conclusion that being bad is just way more fun.

And it’s much easier than talking about meaningful things in my life.

Who wants to hear about my son dying from cancer? Or about my job struggles?

None of that is entertaining.

What do people do on dates if they don’t flirt with each other? How do you figure out if there’s chemistry? What makes a man want to get to know a woman?

This is a mystery to me.

I figure when I partner up with a boyfriend, it’ll be because he just happened to stick around past all the great stuff (i.e. my cleavage and bedroom antics) to discover all the extraordinary stuff underneath that.

Come for the boobs, stay for the brains.


The post about the crazy stuff I’ve signed up to do

a49c471483d7afc3c5d2566ae82a8ef6So, in an effort to get myself out of the house and doing fun things while meeting new people (hopefully guys), I signed up for the Outdoor Adventure Club, How About A Date Meetup, the Los Gatos Buddhists Meetup, the Hot Springs Adventure Group, and the San Francisco Homebrewers Guild, and the Bay Area Outdoor Adventures Group along with two new dating websites – How About We and How About A Date.

Whew!  I am literally exhausted trying to keep up with all the emails.  But I did manage to do the following:

  1.  Arrange for two men to take me on the same date AT DIFFERENT TIMES (glow-in-the-dark Frisbee on the beach plus a bonfire)
  2. Sign up for my Boudoir photography shoot with Celebrate Your Sexy (May 18th y’all, sorry you’re going to have to wait for the fruits of that labor)
  3. Go on a rainy hike through Elephant Seals at Ano Nuevo State Park
  4. Sign up to go ocean kayaking and whale watching in Santa Cruz on March 22nd
  5. Arrange for a Lebanese-American to take me to Arabian Nights in SF for dinner (fantastic, if you know my dad is Lebanese
  6. Take an Introduction to pole dancing class (remind me to buy some hot pants to wear)
  7. Sign up for a beer making class at workshop SF in SF (woo hoo… beer! Let me be your brewmistress!)

In retrospect, going on the same date with two different men is a little ballsy of me.  But hey, all’s fair in love and war and this is a bit of both, don’t you think?  I’m actually really looking forward to all of it with the exception of taking off my clothes in front of a camera which will capture it all.

But I’m already working on figuring out what four outfits to wear for it, and since you’re all so helpful, come back and vote as I suggest possible lingerie outfits (with pics) to wear for the photoshoot.

And wish me luck with all the other activities, I’m going to need it!