Boudoir Photos

In February of 2014, I decided to challenge myself by taking boudoir photos with a professional photographer.  The photo shoot was scheduled for May of 2014 which means I had 3 whole months to plan and obsess about it.  I spent hundreds of dollars on new lingerie and I did tons of research on poses, makeup, and music.

To read all my posts on my Boudoir Photos – 12/22 are pasted below – please click the links below.

  • The one where I agree to get naked (almost) LINK
  • The post about the crazy stuff I’ve signed up to do LINK
  • WHAT was I THINKING!? LINK
  • Do I have horrible taste in lingerie? LINK
  • One pose to try LINK
  • The boudoir debacle LINK
  • Boudoir photo shoot SOON!!!! (with preview pics) LINK
  • Poses for my boudoir photoshoot LINK
  • Boudoir panic sets in LINK
  • Boudoir photoshoot, part 1 LINK
  • Boudoir photoshoot, part 2 LINK
  • Boudoir Reflections LINK
  • Boudoir tips LINK
  • Boudoir Photo Shoot Song Playlist LINK
  • Boudoir photoshoot, the proofs LINK

Can you tell I obsessed a teeny tiny bit over it?  Well, here are the results:

bd12

Boudoir Reflections

I’m a big believer that if you want to make a change, you have to push yourself outside your comfort zone. Wanting change means that you want something different than what you have right now. But you’ll never get anything different unless you do something different.

For me, doing something different began three months ago when a Groupon for a Boudoir Photography Session landed in my inbox.

“No bloody way,” I told myself as I instantly thought of all my body issues. Then I paused.

How I feel about my body is one of the things I want to change about myself. So in spite of my fear and self-loathing, I decided to purchase it.

As usual, I put WAY too much thought into this activity. And WAY too much money. The process of prepping for my photo shoot was long and drawn out (Part 1, Part 2, Freak Out, Boudoir 1, Boudoir 2, Boudoir 3, Boudoir 4, Boudoir 5, Boudoir 6).  But it was also a lot of fun.

I loved looking at other women’s boudoir photos.  I loved shopping for lingerie, jewelry, and shoes.  It was fun to check out hair and makeup on Pinterest.

But all the time, I kept wondering if I was going to chicken out.  Could I go through with it?  Had I not invested so much money in this activity, I might have skipped out on it.  But I was financially committed, and that was good enough for me.

I learned a lot about myself during my photo shoot.  To begin with, I was very good at asking for what I wanted.  I’d done my research, I knew what I wanted.  Even standing in a room with naught but my underwear on, I was able to tell the photographer EXACTLY what I expected.  Kudos to me.

I also discovered that it’s okay to do it your own way.  You don’t have to do it the way others do it.  When I first started researching boudoir poses on Pinterest, it seemed every woman was a size 2 wearing a thong and a push up bra with thigh-highs, sky-high hair, and heavy makeup.  That wasn’t me.  I wanted to be dressed down and ready for bed.  And that’s how I posed.  Yes, it made for a lot of nudity but I enjoyed taking it off for the camera.

Not surprisingly, I got in touch with my sexy side.  Now granted, she’s not that far away at any given time, but for my photo shoot, my inner vixen came out in full force.  I used to avoid looking at my body in the mirror, and during the photo shoot, I stared at my body in the mirror.  Definitely bodacious!  Now I’m not saying I’ve been cured of my body dysmorphia, but I can say I take it all with a grain of salt now.

My final lesson was a lesson in limits.  I learned that a self-limiting belief is only limiting until you LET IT GO.  The old story I told myself was that I don’t look good naked – my legs are too thick, my butt is too big, and my stomach is too soft.  I have constantly restricted my clothes and my activities in order to “hide” these flaws.  But there I was at my boudoir photo shoot, putting them all on display for the camera.  Suddenly, those “thick” legs felt strong and powerful.  My “big” butt looked appealing, and my “soft” stomach felt womanly.  I felt gloriously sensual, sexy, and all-woman.

THIS IS THE STORY I SHOULD BE TELLING MYSELF, NOT THE OLD STORY.

So my parting words of advice to all the ladies out there are:  Book your own boudoir session.  You won’t regret it.

And also?  If I can get naked and post pictures to the internet, then you can definitely take whatever that first step is toward changing your own story.

Boudoir photos – copyrighted by ME

I finally got around to uploading my boudoir photos, without the CYS watermark on them.  You can see the photos, which have been edited a little bit.  If my skin looks overly creamy, that’s why.  Although I must admit, even in the unretouched photos, I looked pretty good.

I hope you like them and I hope they inspire you to take your own boudoir photos.  You can read more about this project here.

 

 

 

Save

Boudoir Photo Shoot Song Playlist

Music can really put me in the right mood for whatever activity I have planned for myself.  I composed a playlist specifically for my boudoir photo shoot.  Here are my songs:

  1. Don’t Cha – Pussycat Dolls
  2. Bootylicious – Destiny’s Child
  3. Pour Some Sugar on Me – Def Leppard
  4. Ooh La La – Goldfrapp
  5. Sex on Fire – Kings of Leon
  6. Sexy Back – Justin Timberlake
  7. My Humps – Black Eyed Peas
  8. Milkshake – Kelis
  9. Lady Marmalade – Moulin Rouge Soundtrack
  10. Cream – Prince
  11. Get the Party Started – Pink
  12. Man!  I Feel Like a Woman – Shania Twain
  13. You’re Beautiful – James Blunt
  14. Your Body is a Wonderland – John Mayer
  15. Sexy and I Know It – LMAFO
  16. Leave your Hat On – Joe Cocker
  17. Wild Thing – Tone Loc
  18. Candy Shop – 50 cent
  19. Thong Song – Sisqo
  20. Hot in Herre – Nelly
  21. Get Busy – Sean Paul
  22. You Sexy Thing – Hot Chocolate
  23. Girl on Fire – Alicia Keys
  24. Born This Way – Lady Gaga
  25. Fighter – Christina Aguilera
  26. Survivor – Eminem
  27. Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
  28. Girls Just Wanna Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
  29. Givin’ Him Something He Can Feel – En Vogue
  30. Unstoppable – Kat Deluna
  31. Glamorous – Fergie
  32. Wannabe – Spice Girls
  33. She Wolf – Shakira
  34. Video – India.Arie
  35. Firework – Katy Perry
  36. Fuckin’ Perfect – Pink!
  37. Single Ladies – Beyonce
  38. Brave – Sara Bareilles
  39. Closer – Nine Inch Nails
  40. Let it Go – Idina Menzel

In general, it’s just a great Girl Power Playlist.  I hope you agree with me and enjoy listening to some of the songs.

Boudoir tips

The first question my photographer asked me at my boudoir photo shoot was, “Who are you doing this for?”

“Nobody,” I replied. But that wasn’t actually true. I was doing it for me.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to sit at home and stare at my pictures without sharing them. I plan to post some on the internet and show them to all my open-minded friends – Michelle, Brian, Marty, Lisa, Austin, etc. Especially Austin.

Austin read my last post and sent me a message, “Liked the article today. The thing I think is interesting is the “who are you doing it for” angle.”

I read his message and felt immediately proud of myself all over again.

The truth is however, that the ONLY person who can claim that I did it for him is Austin, in light of the fact that I took his favorite pose and recreated it in the photo shoot. I even instructed the photographer to “make sure you get my butt dimples.”

Because like it or not, I have some really outstanding butt dimples and putting them on display is something I’ve done in the past and something I’m sure I’ll do again.

Every man has his quirks I guess. I suppose to limit them to the three obvious choices – boob man, butt man, and leg man – lacks the nuances of all the lovely body parts us ladies possess. Why not face man? Or butt dimple man? Or foot man? Or hair man? In my experience, I think there should be a belly button man too. It takes all types, what can I say.  My friend Austin, when asked, will comically answer that he’s a “pussy man.” I LOVE that answer.  If it’s a woman, he adores it.

My pictures won’t be available until June 4th so I won’t be able to post anything until then. Sad face. I’m so excited at the thought of seeing them – and a little nervous that they won’t look as good as I hope.

Now that I know what I’m doing, I could sign up for another boudoir photo shoot easy, no problem. I’d do it a little different this time (i.e. less expensive).

Here are my best tips for a boudoir photo shoot:

  1. Don’t buy tons of new lingerie.  Go with what you have that you feel comfortable in.  I bought so much lingerie and wound up using very little of it.
  2. Wear what makes you feel good.  You know what I’m talking about – underwear and lingerie that when you put it on you preen a little.  You know you look good.
  3. Makeup is very important. Practice to capture the look you want.  Do research on Pinterest.
  4. Hair is very important. Invest in a good blowout.  Again, research on Pinterest.
  5. Check out boudoir photo pics online and pin the pics you like.  Pinterest.
  6. Try not to wear tight clothes that can leave marks on your skin the day of the shoot.
  7. Moisturize. Moisturize. Moisturize.  No dryy elbows or knees needed.
  8. Get a great mani and pedi ahead of time.  Scrub your feet and soles so you don’t have dirty feet the day of.
  9. Consider getting an airbrush tan.  Test out the tan a week ahead to make sure it’s what you want.
  10. SHOES are key! Can’t stress this enough. A great pair is EVERYTHING.  EVERYTHING.
  11. Pick out jewelry for every outfit.
  12. Don’t forget to have fun. Get in touch with your inner vixen.
  13. Look at pictures of people with your body type posing for boudoir photos. You’ll gain confidence in your own ability to look sexy.
  14. And my final tip is PLAN, PLAN, PLAN. The more you organize, the better the experience.

I may have done this for myself, but I am 100% confident that I will share my photos with my new significant other when he comes along.  And, of course, I may just take it all off again for another photo shoot for him.  Who knows?  I’m crazy like that.

Boudoir Reflections

I’m a big believer that if you want to make a change, you have to push yourself outside your comfort zone. Wanting change means that you want something different than what you have right now. But you’ll never get anything different unless you do something different.

For me, doing something different began three months ago when a Groupon for a Boudoir Photography Session landed in my inbox.

“No bloody way,” I told myself as I instantly thought of all my body issues. Then I paused.

How I feel about my body is one of the things I want to change about myself. So in spite of my fear and self-loathing, I decided to purchase it.

As usual, I put WAY too much thought into this activity. And WAY too much money. The process of prepping for my photo shoot was long and drawn out (Part 1, Part 2, Freak Out, Boudoir 1, Boudoir 2, Boudoir 3, Boudoir 4, Boudoir 5, Boudoir 6).  But it was also a lot of fun.

I loved looking at other women’s boudoir photos.  I loved shopping for lingerie, jewelry, and shoes.  It was fun to check out hair and makeup on Pinterest.

 

But all the time, I kept wondering if I was going to chicken out.  Could I go through with it?  Had I not invested so much money in this activity, I might have skipped out on it.  But I was financially committed, and that was good enough for me.

I learned a lot about myself during my photo shoot.  To begin with, I was very good at asking for what I wanted.  I’d done my research, I knew what I wanted.  Even standing in a room with naught but my underwear on, I was able to tell the photographer EXACTLY what I expected.  Kudos to me.

I also discovered that it’s okay to do it your own way.  You don’t have to do it the way others do it.  When I first started researching boudoir poses on Pinterest, it seemed every woman was a size 2 wearing a thong and a push up bra with thigh-highs, sky-high hair, and heavy makeup.  That wasn’t me.  I wanted to be dressed down and ready for bed.  And that’s how I posed.  Yes, it made for a lot of nudity but I enjoyed taking it off for the camera.

Not surprisingly, I got in touch with my sexy side.  Now granted, she’s not that far away at any given time, but for my photo shoot, my inner vixen came out in full force.  I used to avoid looking at my body in the mirror, and during the photo shoot, I stared at my body in the mirror.  Definitely bodacious!  Now I’m not saying I’ve been cured of my body dysmorphia, but I can say I take it all with a grain of salt now.

My final lesson was a lesson in limits.  I learned that a self-limiting belief is only limiting until you LET IT GO.  The old story I told myself was that I don’t look good naked – my legs are too thick, my butt is too big, and my stomach is too soft.  I have constantly restricted my clothes and my activities in order to “hide” these flaws.  But there I was at my boudoir photo shoot, putting them all on display for the camera.  Suddenly, those “thick” legs felt strong and powerful.  My “big” butt looked appealing, and my “soft” stomach felt womanly.  I felt gloriously sensual, sexy, and all-woman.

THIS IS THE STORY I SHOULD BE TELLING MYSELF, NOT THE OLD STORY.

So my parting words of advice to all the ladies out there are:  Book your own boudoir session.  You won’t regret it.

And also?  If I can get naked and post pictures to the internet, then you can definitely take whatever that first step is toward changing your own story.

 

 

 

Boudoir photoshoot, part 2

THE SHOOT

It’s now about 4:00 pm and even though I don’t have my appointment until 7 pm, I leave early to get to the City. I have a nasty habit of getting lost in the city and I figure this gives me a comfortable buffer in case I get lost on my way to the hotel AND gives me plenty of time to imbibe some liquid courage – in my case a VERY LARGE GIN MARTINI with three olives.

YUM!

Sure, I was the girl sitting in a hotel bar in the City wearing a little black dress and with no underwear. Why, you ask?

Because I was worried about wearing anything that might leave a mark on my skin.

So NO BRA and NO UNDERWEAR for me.

I felt very naughty and wicked sitting alone in my booth.

I was nervous and I texted Marty and my friend Brian, both of whom did a great job in calming me down. Sort of. I did freak out a little bit. You can watch me freak out here.

I took a few selfies in the bar. Just a girl in a LBD in the City, going commando with a duffel bag full of lingerie. What’s not normal about that?!?!?

 

My photographer, a woman, finally called me to the suite and we poured over my lingerie for a good 15 minutes, deciding what outfit to wear, what shoes to pair with each outfit and what jewelry to match each outfit.

I was happy to finally have a “girlfriend’ to assist me in this venture. For the first time since I started this whole process, I felt a little lonely, wishing I had someone to be there for me for this event in my life. But no, going it alone this time. Buck up and move on.

For the better part of an hour and a half, my photographer posed me and snapped pictures of me.

A few of the things she said to me:

  • “Look at me and give me a little smirk.”
  • “Lift your chin and tilt your nose toward me.”
  • “How did you get such a nice butt? Do you do squats?”
  • “This is a perfect angle to show off your tattoos.”
  • “I have my clitoral hood pierced.” NSFW!!!

WHAT?! You can imagine the face I made when I heard my photographer say that.

Oh, ouch! No thank you. It took some serious mental cleansing to get that image out of my head, especially since she described getting it pierced.

Moving on….

I got pretty damn naked for my photos. I was really proud of myself for putting it all out there and getting photographed doing it. I should have pictures to view in a few days and something to post here within the week.

Hope you all enjoyed the process like I did, and if you’d like, drop me a line at michelle@unblunder.com.

Boudoir panic sets in

Sitting in a hotel bar off Market Street where my photoshoot is taking place, drinking some liquid courage (aka a 9 oz gin martini), I suddenly started to panic…

It just hit me – all this prep:

  • The hair
  • The makeup
  • The airbrush tan
  • The full body hair removal
  • The hours of scouring the internet doing research

It all boiled down to this.  And my photographer was going to make or break this experience for me…

More to come….

Poses for my boudoir photoshoot

I’m no newbie to taking sexy photos.  I’ve been doing it since before we had cell phones and you had to take a photo with a standard 35 mm camera.  Here are some of my favorite (G-rated) photos.  There may be a nip slip in the bunch.  Sorry if you’re easily offended.

 

Those are some of my favorite pics I can post.  Now, here are some of the (G-rated) poses I plan to do at my photoshoot.  You can see all my inspiration online at my Pinterest Board – Boudoir photo shoot.

Fun, no?  I’ve decided to go with a “Dressing Down” theme – a women just coming home from a glamorous night on the town and getting undressed for her lover.  It’s a minimalist approach to a boudoir photoshoot since the idea behind it is removing clothing – exposing the lingerie underneath – and then getting completely naked for a night in bed.

What do you think?  Think I can pull it off with this curvy, bodacious body?!

Yeah…. me too!