Feeling uncomfortable

There’s a rumor swirling around that people hate change.

It’s hard on us.

The tried and true may not be perfect but it’s better than the unknown, right?

Well about ten years ago, I met a man who lived life on his own terms.

He walked to the beat of a different drummer.

I resented him pushing me out of my comfort zone at the time, but looking back I see now he taught me an important lesson.

He taught me to challenge myself in every area of my life.

I’ve gotten pretty good at being adventurous with my free time.

Hello running with the bulls and Burning Man.

But there are areas that could be improved upon.

Such as my dating life.

I withhold a lot.

I’ll get a burning urge to ask my date a critical question but I never ask out of fear that the answer might not be what I like and I might ruffle a few feathers.

You can imagine how well that goes over.

The distance between me and my date increases by leaps and bounds and then we just fizzle out.

Sure, I’ve kept the peace but there’s a cost.

Lack of intimacy.

But it’s how we resolve conflicts that defines our intimacy with others.

So I’ve got to get better at asking the difficult questions.

In order to succeed, I can’t be afraid of failing.