Red Flags

Not surprisingly, I see a lot of red flags when I go out on dates with men.

The guy who brought his 6-year-old daughter on a date was a red flag.

Then there was the attorney who passed gas in his car driving me up and down Mt. Hamilton.  Nasty rancid hummus farts.


The guy who got REALLY mad at me for showing up an hour “late” for a date when he had accidentally texted me the wrong time.

But the guy who takes the cake is the one who left a hand gun out on his counter top just as casual as can be.

As my friend Michelle pointed out, “The hand gun is a major red flag.  As you know my family are military with guns.  They would counsel you 100% to not see someone again who leaves their handgun out on a counter.”

Yes, indeed.

Most of my friends were perturbed by the casual presence of a gun on my date.

Tom, always the comedian, sent me this clip from “It’s always sunny in Philadelphia”:

The IMPLICATION of course being that who is going to say no when there’s the idle threat of a gun laying nearby?

Personally, I think this guy had no idea that his gun was out.

He’s single.

No kids.

Lives alone.

Nevertheless, it is a thoughtless act and one which intimidated me and made me feel uncomfortable.

No repeat performance necessary.

I see the red flag.

Locked and loaded

gunguy1I just want to bring up what I find a disturbing trend in online dating – POSTING PICTURES WITH GUNS.



Do I really need to see that you love posting pictures your rifle or shotgun more than you enjoy posting pictures of your car and your friends?

I think not.

I posted a picture of my truck because I like it and it has a HEMI which I find very sexy.

It represents my on-the-go lifestyle.

But a gun?

I’m not gonna post pictures of me with a gun because that doesn’t reflect who I am.

I find it intimidating as well as trashy to see men with guns in their online dating profile.

Mind you, I have friends with guns who post pictures to Facebook and that’s a TOTALLY DIFFERENT CREATURE.

Facebook friends know you.  They see pictures of you with your kids.  There’s a whole person represented online.

So I’m a little confused as to why a guy would EMPHASIZE what has to be a small part of his life on his online dating profile.

Those pictures always look menacing.