Cyber Stalker

Five years ago, my boyfriend and I were pregnant.

Yes, indeed.

There I was, unmarried and pregnant.

He told his parents and my parents.

I had a miscarriage and he dumped me.

Turns out he was seeing someone new at work and they got married.

I have to say, if something like this is going to happen to anyone, this is the way for it to happen.

I got dumped for The One, not just another woman in a long line of women he dated.

And the miscarriage?

Well, it just wasn’t meant to be.

Now, I am relieved that I don’t have something tethering me to him for the rest of all eternity.

Two weeks ago, my sister told me that he had a child.

Good for him and his wife.

Now let’s talk about things that matter to me.

And I PROMPTLY forgot the whole thing.

Today something surprising happened.

His wife added me on LinkedIn.

I find this odd.

After all, we’ve never spoken and if she hadn’t taken his name then I’d have no idea who was adding me on LinkedIn.

I can only imagine that she was researching me on the internet and accidentally clicked on the button to add me as a friend instead of just closing the tab and minding her own business.


Who’s a cyber stalker?

Mr. 6’10”

I once dated a guy who was 6’10” tall.

Everywhere we went, people reacted to him. So much so that he developed two jokes he’d use all the time to answer two common questions people would ask him:

  1. Is it true what they say about a man’s height and the size of his penis?

Answer: God no! I’d be 10 feet tall.

  1. Do you play basketball?

Answer: Do you play mini golf?

The truth is, Mr. 6’10” was a volleyball player, and a good one at that.  I’m not sure he did any more than that, he seemed to be independently wealthy and I knew his family hailed from Pebble Beach.

I was smitten with this man and imagined he was smitten with me too.

In the end, that turned out to not be the case and we drifted apart and lost touch.

The other day, I’m minding my own business when an email comes in to my inbox.

Mr. 6’10” tall wants to add you as a connection on LinkedIn.


Naturally I added him.

But I can’t help but feel like I got lumped in with a group add on LinkedIn. I’m pretty sure he didn’t intend to add me as a contact.

Nevertheless he did it, so I can just go ahead and feel slightly smug that after nearly 10 years, he reconnected with me.

Deliberate or accidental.