Accessorize, accessorize, accessorize

My Labyrinth themed ballgown (aka quinceañera dress) is coming along nicely.

At least I hope it is since I ordered it online.

Meanwhile, I’ve been throwing around ideas on how to properly accessorize the dress (and wings).

This is the outfit:

I’ve been thinking that one of the following necklace, choker, or collar might look good with the dress:

Here’s a lovely necklace with matching earrings which goes well with the silver wings:

Then there’s this edgy purple collar, complete with D-ring.  Perfect for making a Labyrinth fairytale dress into something more edgy for Burning Man:

And finally, a lovely little glitter choker which matches the dress:

Of course, I also have these lovely earrings to go with the collar and choker which match the beading on the dress:

So my question to you is WHICH ONE SHOULD I WEAR?

Here’s a little inspiration for your visual pleasure which gives you an idea of the look I’m going for:

The good news is that I’ll have lots of friends to ask at UnSCruz which necklace to wear – from my BFF Tejas, to my friend Bad Boy, to my partner in crime Marina!  One way or another, I’ll figure it out.


Poll: Would you use a Male Birth Control Pill?

866cbd9f9173ac46f1f2cb032f9bfc44If a male birth control pill existed and was on the market, would you use it?

Pick the answer that best reflects your opinion, men in the first poll, women in the second:

What comes first: sex or oral sex?

imageThe first thing you need to know about whether or not sex or oral sex comes first is that


Perhaps because it was a non-anonymous Facebook poll.

Makes sense.

The second thing you need to know is that men WILL respond to a non-anonymous Facebook poll.

Why the discrepancy?  Is there a difference between men who admit to eating pussy and women who admit to sucking cock?

Maybe it’s because blasting “I suck cock” all over Facebook doesn’t raise a woman’s image whereas admitting to eating pussy just increases our perception of his virility.  Could this be the terrible double standard rearing its ugly head?

Are we still so judgmental that a sexual woman is something we look down on?

If I can speak from experience, I would say a resounding YES.

People are judgmental of a sexual woman.  Because of this blog, I’ve been called crazy, tacky, trashy, perverted, and my personal favorite “totally lacking in class and morals” (and that was just my sister).

So what’s a girl to do if she has a serious question and no one will answer?

Put out an anonymous poll, of course.  So here you go…. if you’re a man or a woman you are invited to participate or email me at